The end of August feels like fall, but it’s not. It’s still summer. Even though football games have started and kids have returned to school, summer holds on, lingering until the end of September. When we move on to the next adventure, we know it is time for a change of season. There’s still no need to rush into it. I’m one to embrace the new and quickly release the old. Often, I’m steps ahead of myself, planning the next best thing.
Planning is important to be prepared for the new steps, but I miss what’s in the moment. The warm weather, the blooming flowers, and the green leaves, still wanting to show off, as they prepare for the end finale.
Fall brings apples, donuts, and cider, but having them too early spoils the fun. The leaves must be in their full array of color and the temperatures need to be cool(in Michigan). Going to an apple orchard in August makes no sense. I like to check things off my list, but the timing needs to be right. It’s not about the getting it done, but about engaging in the experience.
Other people cling to the past. Reflecting and reviewing what transpired, can bring clarity to the future. Staying in the dormant space can be debilitating. Eating a donut and having cider in the winter doesn’t work either. The past is past, opportunities gone. Learn from it. Forgive it, if necessary. Make adjustments for the future and move forward.
Neither rushing the new, nor holding onto the old is healthy. The balance resides in the mix between the two. Enjoy the last month of summer. Savor in the delights of the season, knowing you can have your donut and cider in October.
Susan J. McFarland
August 25, 2018
Greeted by three deer and a heron today, they sent me the message of the importance of standing still. I admit it, I have not been standing still or sitting still these summer months. Filling the days with chores, appointments, and activities has kept me running.
Dropping off my daughter at camp yesterday, I drove home exhausted from the whirl of activities the last few months. Longing for solitude and stillness, ahead of another day filled with appointments, I sit and write.
Chatting with a friend this week about the busyness of summer, I learned I am not the only one experiencing summer overload. Living in Michigan, our summer window is short. Feeling pressure to do all that I can while the weather is good and the roads are clear, I pack our schedule. Wanting to check off all the routines, requirements, appointments, and traditions, I fill the days. Even though I schedule walking and writing time in the morning, the remainder of the day is non-stop. Why is this? Why am I so compelled on completing a years worth of actions in three short months? What drives me to “get it all done now”? During our chat, the word "relax" filtered its way into my brain. What? Relax? There is no time for that!
My animals friends have reminded me of the importance of stillness and relaxation. I will not be loved anymore, because I check off all the thoughts in my head. I do enough. I am enough, just as I am, no action needed.
Remember today, to relax in the moment and throughout the moments of your day. Schedule stillness or let it happen, either way, don’t forget to relax. The summer will be done before you know it.
Susan J. McFarland
July 26, 2018