Sunday, the day of rest, in the past, was used for a dial it in day. As a society, we no longer use this day or any other, to dial in. I love dial in days. By nature, I’m a homebody. Finding recluse from the busy world, I often retreat to my home space. As an empath and a sensitive, I now know, I have to have “down time” to survive. It is no longer solely a reward.
Dialing in can refer to staying home, in a comfortable place. Gaining energy from solitude and quiet, helps to revitalize a weary soul. Yoga too, can be a dial in practice, especially during the ending meditation. Meditation can happen after a practice. Or it can be done anywhere, at anytime, when you need to dial in. Life does not always allow a full day of dialing in at home, in contemplation.
Meditation, the original WiFi connection, is still available. It doesn’t require a cave or an ashram. There are no costs or start up fees. It is free. You are free to tap into the mysteries of self and the Universe whenever the need for dialing in occurs. It calms the spirit and quenches the soul, like no other remedy from the outside world. All potions and products, only offer droplets of relief, compared to this sacred art.
Find a comfortable spot in or outside, close your eyes or keep them open. Sit or lay down for twenty minutes. Breath. Watch your thoughts come in and out. No need to control or change them, just observe. They come. They go. Notice your breath. Notice your body. Notice your mind.
It’s all good. No judgment. No expectation. Energy shifts.
Turn your dial inward and turn your life around.
Susan J. McFarland
October 14, 2018
Thursdays are hard days. We are all tired from the first part of the week. My husband left for an overseas trip yesterday. My two teenage daughters are hormonal. We are all stressed with schedules, homework, and social pressures. Rest is calling, but I’m not listening. I have too much to do.
My day is planned. Instead of yoga, I decide to pick up a few groceries. This would be the second trip this week. We are low on a few items, but we are not desperate for food. The night activities include a cross-country meet and a possible homecoming ask for my oldest daughter. We are all nervous about the days events.
The morning starts as normal, but as the time comes to leave the three of us are in total rush mode. We leave late. I drive in traffic and darkness with two quiet teenagers, both in a funk. My emotions are high. As an empath and a sensitive, I can feel their anxiety. Confronting my high schooler about her “quietness” and “attitude," she answers me with silence. We part with a short “I love you”. I want to cry.
On the way home, I scream and sob. This is not my normal behavior. I am more reserved and usually “keep it all together”. I’m tired. I need rest. I require deep and extreme self-care today. Coming home and using my excess energy to put away the summer patio furniture, I decide to have a cup of tea. I love tea, but I have not allowed myself the privilege and luxury of having a cup in the morning. I sit down with my ginger tea, selected to aid digestion, since digestion is tied to emotions. My emotions are flying high. I need to get grounded.
Sipping my tea, I decide to do a weekly writing lesson, that I haven’t had time to do this week. Coincidently, ironically, or serendipitously, the lesson is about sitting down and drinking TEA! Really?
Questions are asked about preparations. When drinking tea, one must select the tea. This is an important first step and necessitates tuning into your body, mind, and soul. Next, I choose my tea mug. It’s all has a quote nature and patience. I use a hot pot, so I must fill the container with clean filtered water. This requires presence. Once the water in turned on, I wait and listen for the boiling bubbles. Pouring the hot liquid over the ginger leaves, I smell the pungent scent. Sitting down in my sunroom, gazing into the woods, the peace and serenity envelop me, even before I take my first sip. I am still. I am present. I am calm. Tea has changed my plans. Listening to my inner calling, I understand that I need a morning of extreme self-care. This is not selfish or unproductive. It is critical to my health and the well-being of my family. Tea has brought me here. This is the reason I have a love affair with tea, which I have been neglecting. As part of my plan today, I commit to rekindling my love for tea.
Susan J. McFarland
September 27, 2018
When computers overload, they shut down. Our human bodies can have the same reaction. This happened to me, at least three times. Suffering from physical stress and mental anxiety, produced unexplained seizures in my brain. High sensitivity and extreme empathy causes my system to shut down, literally, when it becomes overloaded. Having experienced this during periods of my life, when balance wasn’t a priority, I now find it imperative to maintain a stable and steady life.
We are all different. Anxiety creeps into my system when I don’t have a plan. I feel ill ease when I can’t control situations or outcomes. When life is busy with activities that keep changing and people are stressed out around me, my nervousness skyrockets. Whether it is a messy room or an over crowded environment, I feel unbalanced. I know this about myself now. In the past, I ignored it. Pushing through the feelings, I overdid it, until I couldn’t do it any longer. I don’t do that now.
My daughter is completely the opposite. She hates schedules and plans. They stress her out. She loves her mess. She loves crowds and busy places. Hanging with people discussing life’s dramas is her favorite pastime. What works for one doesn’t necessary work for another, when finding balance. Know thyself is key.
I sit and write, with a cat on my lap, drinking tea, after a walk in the woods. Yoga, healthy foods, reading, and music offer relief from everyday stresses. Incorporating a few of these into each and every day, keeps my teeter from tottering. These are my balancing tools.
A teeter-totter needs to go up and down, back and forth, before it finds the sweet spot of balance. Some entities bring both balance and stress. I love my friends and family. They are a great source of comfort and calm. They bring happiness and joy, but like any relationship, they provide a dynamic that needs daily adjustments. Similar to water, friends and family can be both a source of life and at the same time, can be detrimental and destructive. Understand the people, places, or situations that are both life affirming and life retracting.
Use the tools that work for you to step in and help restore peace to your nervous system. Managing balance is a constant job of checking in with yourself and adjusting as necessary. Your mind, body, and spirit will thank you. Living in harmony is the reward.
Susan J. McFarland
October 5, 2018