Deep sadness arose, when I discussed my daughter not being in the school orchestra this year, due to a scheduling conflict, with a friend. I sobbed to her, finally releasing the pain I felt, but couldn’t express openly. That was last week.
This week, my daughter is now a part of a community orchestra with new opportunities and adventures awaiting her. It is less convenient than playing cello at school. It costs extra money to participate. Driving an hour to practice weekly is the schedule. Waiting for her during the allotted time is the new normal. We have adjusted.
In less than seven days, I have transitioned from the depths of sadness and emerged to find a new joy. She is happy she made the intermediate level orchestra. I am happy she continues to play the instrument she loves.
When life looks bleak and appears hopeless, move through the discomfort. Do not attempt to avoid it or ignore it, but stay open and receptive to the offerings of life.
Life is puzzling. We didn’t plan this or anticipate it. It was beyond our control and out of our hands. We had to move in that direction, learning new information, scheduling an audition, and actually showing up. Once there, we let go of expectations and attachments to the past and the future. Happy with the new direction, we look forward to a year of practice and anticipate a melodic concert.
As one door closes in your life, instead of continuing to knock on it, move away from it. Perhaps you will find another door waiting nearby to be opened. It could be filled with even greater joys, then the one that closed.
Susan J. McFarland
September 8, 2018